I shouldn't worry Brit, it is all being fixed slowly and surely.
If you read around on the forum you will see that developers are already working to fix key issues, some of which you mentioned above.
All we need is a bit of patience, and we shall see some difference
You are probably expecting a Microsoft style game I take it? Microsoft is enormous, VSTEP are only small and don't have such a big budget to spend making the games.
But give credit, they don't half try do they? Trying to please the fans.
If you watch various videos you will see Frank of VSTEP explaining that the Ship Simulator series is a game specially built for the entertainment industry thus meaning it is a game only.
And he clearly states that for a full blown simulation they have NAUTIS (formely SS Pro) to which extensive development has gone into, including winds, tides and many features.
So if you want something more serious to use, as I presume by the tone of your post.
Then buy NAUTIS, if you can't afford it then Ship Simulator Extremes and it's predecessors are second best.
You won't find another game on the market seriously devoted to shipping.
Give SSE some time though, hey? When ever a game is released there are always problems which have to be fixed, the same with SS 2008 and now look at it. One of the most respected games yet.
And it went through the exact same problems.
But people coped because they had a little bit of patience
Friendly kind regards
Matthew Brown