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[MrFlappy102]

I know it's lame that I'm asking advice on here, but any thoughts would be appreciated.

I've had a crush on this girl for 4 years now. I have wanted to tell her but I haven't because first off I'm afraid to, and second I can't think of a non-cheesy way to do it. I'm not exactly "popular" but I do have a decent amount of friends. Also, her and I used to be decent friends when we were younger. I want to tell her and our two families are going camping together this weekend so I have a good oppritunity. How should I do it? Btw, I'm in high school, just for refernce.

[laganviking]

This is TFM's department - he shall be along soon to give you some of his many tips and pointers

[The Ferry Man]

My advice - your too young - stick to ferries  

[Ballast]

Don't do it! A relationship is nothing more than solving problems that wouldn't have occurred if you were single 

[laganviking]

Don't do it! A relationship is nothing more than solving problems that wouldn't have occurred if you were single 

That almost sounds like experience talking there....

[The Ferry Man]

My advice - the best things that have skirts are called hovercraft

[Ballast]

Ok guys, it's enough 

Seriously, ask her if she wants to join you for a walk or something. Just be yourself, try to feel comfortable and tell her if you think the moment is there but don't push it 

[laganviking]

Yes on a serious note - test the waters some how. You might as well try it, as you only live once. You might regret not asking later on 

[The Ferry Man]

Ok guys, it's enough 

je is asking for Love advice from a group of ship enthusiasts,... would could he expect... 

[MrFlappy102]

je is asking for Love advice from a group of ship enthusiasts,... would could he expect... 

I guess that's true, but I am looking for some honest advice. So thanks to the people who have given that.

[Chitch]

Be honest, don't try to impress her, and like was said...be yourself.  If she can't/won't like you based on how you really are....then she's not for you.  I wish I had a tiny piece of gold for every girl I 'really liked' in my life, I'd be wealthy enough to own a real ship company.  My Father always told me that 'There are a lot of fish in the sea'....if this one doesn't work out, then there may be someone else that's meant for you. (He also said that Spambot are like streetcars...there's one along every 15 minutes  )...then again, he was born very early in the 20th century too (1916)...long since gone now (I'm just about 60 myself), and I've been married for 36 years.  So, don't roll your eyes....I might be old physically, but the mind is still thinking like a 19 year old...and that can get me into a lot of trouble with "The War Department" if I don't keep an eye on it.  My favorite line is "The worse I can do is assault with a DEAD weapon" or "The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak".

I hope that this might help a bit...probably didn't but....I did try.

Good Luck

Jim (The Geezer)

 

[Chitch]

je is asking for Love advice from a group of ship enthusiasts,... would could he expect... 

I dunno....sailors have a pretty rich history in the Lady Department, do they not? 

Jim

[saltydog]

Flappy, I'm not sure there is a non-cheesy way to do it..If the mutual attraction is there, it will happen..
Perhaps you should try to read her signals, does she smile when you touch her, does she laugh at your jokes..?
Also, you must consider, telling her how you feel about her could change the friendship..
It's a gamble, some to win, some to lose..

[marcstrat]

OOh,this is the area of Dr.Phil,on this forum
I did not knew that,thats he's around to here
Love on the forum,well its the first time in my 4 and a half as a mod,that a shipsim forum have to advice in some lovematters.I learn everyday
Regards
Marc

[sadsid (†2016)]

Hi
Only you know the girl so asking stranger's is not really the answer ?
But the one thing I do know is you must find the courage to tell her
otherwise it may be to late and you will spend the rest of you'r life
thinking IF I had done this IF I had said that IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT ?

                                                                from aunty betty 

[gibby12]

well im only 12/ almost 13 but here is my advice,
1.Be yourself

2,compliment her tell her she is cute or something like that but make sure it dont weird her out dont blurt it out of nowhere,  make her feel good about her self  and tell her you realy care for her  

3.Do what saltydog toldya im sure it will work  

4.And whene you think the time is right go in for the kill   (DONT KILL HER) you know what i mean by that right?

Hope it helps it sure helped me whene i was in 6th grade and i asked out a 8th grader and i wasnt the most populare kid either i think we are both on the same page no?  

tell me how it works out 

[Rik de Leeuw]

[Dr. Phill mode]
- Start and/or keep talking with her about other things.
- Try to get the conversation to the things she likes to do, be, see, etc.... Show that your interested in her life.
- Find something she likes to do and break the ice, ask her out.
- If all else fail, try the cheesy way, at least she will know that you liked her. You might not get the answer you like most, but at least you won't be asking your self if she knew, when she's gone.
- Don't take love advise from me
[/Dr Phill mode]
 

[The Ferry Man]

[Dr. Phill mode]
- Don't take love advise from me
[/Dr Phill mode]
 

Great advice...

[laganviking]

Of course mr flappy, you have to tell us how it goes - for better or worse 

[IRI5HJ4CK]

Sometimes its hard to read someones signals...but you tend to develop that a bit as you get older I think.

If you're not sure though - do what I do! Just ask her straight! As Eric said..you'll always wonder if you don't. Even if she doesn't look at you 'that' way (As in, someone she wants to go out with), she'll still probably find it cute that you like her...so either way, I think its nearly always a win win situation.

But afterall...you know the person better than any of us. My advice is to 'get in there' and see what she says..you may get a surprise!

Jack.

[The Ferry Man]

Sometimes its hard to read someones signals...but you tend to develop that a bit as you get older I think.

I find sgal vary from what source you are taking them from...

In the motor world, Red means stop, green means go, and Yellow means warning, changes afoot...

*In England, French don't go Red->Yellow->Green...

In the train world:
red means stop.
yellow means the next signal is red, be prepared to stop
double yellow means warning, the block ahead is on a caution signal, be aware
Green means this block section is clear, you may pass

See - the basics of land-based signals...

[Chitch]

well im only 12/ almost 13 but here is my advice,

4.And whene you think the time is right go in for the kill   (DONT KILL HER) you know what i mean by that right?


tell me how it works out 

Go in for the kill??  Why does he have to do it the first day?  Things take time.  Heck, there's no rush...he's got his whole life ahead of him, as does she.  If there's a connection, then both will know it...if not, both will know it.

Just take your time, and yes, there is the possibility that it can be done "NON-CHEESY".  Compliments don't have to be overt either...just subtle stuff...don't go overboard, or it will sound cheesy....maybe one...gee I like what you did with your hair, or that's a cool shirt, or whatever, then drop it and go on to another topic...Want to go swimming?  Fishing? Walk?  Whatever is appropriate.  If she's designated to collect wood for a fire, then ask her if she'd like help....then shut up and see what she says.  People get into trouble with relationships because they don't know when to stop talking.  I know...after 36 years of marriage....I answer the question, and then shut up...if any more input is required, THE BOSS will say so..if not, I'm to keep my place...simple 

Jim

[gibby12]

im sorry i wrote that at 3 in the morning  i woke up and checked the post but anyway your right take your time and what chitch said fallow his advice and saltydogs thers is the best 

[laganviking]

I wonder how his camping is going

Happy birthday anyway cassanova

[The Ferry Man]

I wonder how his camping is going

Happy birthday anyway cassanova

It is probably raining...